#happiness – Phuro!

Tell me what it takes

“I am the center of my own web of circumstances and as I change so must my outer world.”

Neville

Maybe you stumbled on this website because you were looking for inspiration or motivation, maybe you were looking for help or assistance because you feel blocked in life. Maybe you just feel alone or not understood by your surroundings. Maybe you are awakening and you realize that it isn’t an easy process and you wonder if other people are experiencing the same.

I know it is not always easy to tell out loud what you feel inside, or to participate in another dumbed-down daily life conversation again. I know what it feels like being in no-man’s land, being an outlaw, fitting in nowhere ! The awakening process often brings you to dark places and leaves you scarred, not knowing who you truly are.

“There’s a blue moon
Or a bright sun
Shining in every sky
Better think twice
Before this life baby
Just passes you by”

Maybe as a child you were told several times you couldn’t do something, or you were beaten and you grew up feeling unappreciated, unworthy or worse : unloved ! It can be difficult to bring all these experiences up to the surface and to find your king-pin, your oppressor, your core resisting thoughts and beliefs !

But as you move through the pain and shed all this old stuff, you will gain more confidence in yourself. When you feel drained by the struggle in life, sometimes all it takes is a spark of faith ! Sooner or later there will be a turning point where you finally start letting go, detaching yourself from all these low inner states.

“Everyone knows there’s no
Sure way of telling
Which way to go
Open your heart
Come on let’s start
Making a new love grow”*

What’s it worth ?

You are. You are worth it ! You are worth to not only live or exist but you are worth to live a happy life ! If you are not convinced by this statement then you still resist your own happiness !

Keep stripping off all these limited identities and conditions and accept the Being that you are. Accept how powerful you are and start flowing with life again !

I hope you are a visitor ready for self empowerment, ready to take another outlook on life, I hope this is a place where you can feel at ease and start being at peace with yourself !

“Tell me what is takes
Tell me what it takes
To get a happy look
And a smile on your face
Tell me what it takes
Tell me what it takes
To make the sadness end
And start living again”*

Phuro! Be inspired!

*Song : Tell me what it takes ~Soulsister

Choose life !

You have no idea how many people tell me they feel lost lately. They don’t know who they are, they don’t what they want, they don’t know what to do anymore ! They have been knocked down in life too many times, they feel they are out of choices and are desperate !

Many are ashamed because they believe they failed to live according to society’s standards, they think something is fundamentally wrong with them. No wonder depression and burnout have taken on epidemical forms !

A lot of people are in need to confess their sins, to confide their darkest secrets to someone who understands, someone who doesn’t judge or blame them for being out of course.

Where you are in life depends a lot on the choices you have been making so far. Maybe you wonder how life would have looked like, if you had followed another path…

What if ? “What if I stayed in that relationship, what if I took that job offer back then,…?”

Know that each time you make a decision that goes against the natural flow of life, you are damaging yourself and you will eventually experience pain.

The further you remove yourself from your center, the more tension you will feel until the pressure gets unbearable and you eventually break and lose complete connection with your true self. You are “lost” !

Every time something leaves you feeling bad about yourself or leaves you in pain, you are just going against your grain. You are on a course that Spirit didn’t exactly had in mind for you !

Each day we are able to consciously choose between joy and suffering or ease and dis-ease. We eighter move towards self damage or towards self healing !

Are you driven by hate and fear ? Always playing it safe ? Are you still living according to other people’s expectations, forced in a certain direction, a direction that isn’t yours ?

What do you really want to experience in life ? Put your wonderful imagination to work in a positive way and focus on what makes your soul expand !

If today you decide to turn things around and take the first step…

Don’t sabotage yourself : Choose life over death !

Phuro! Be inspired!

Me minus drama !

Although everyone is looking for happiness, the search is futile because what you are looking for exists already here now. You’ll be happy once you are living a life you don’t need to escape from !

What keeps you away from this ultimate freedom are your thoughts that you constantly project to past or future events, leaving you unhappy.

So you need distractions from life and as a way to cope with the sadness and pain you create all kind of diversions, but you are not really able to experience true happiness !

Maybe you had a fabulous weekend and had fun with friends, but soon that monday morning feeling kicked in and you were sucked back into misery and meaninglessness.

Life is painful for many people and many suffer from mental health issues ! They’re not feeling good in their skin, even youngsters are already exhausted from life or feeling too apathetic to participate in life !

Happiness to me is a state of being in the now, being fully present. Unbounded, non attached. It is ME MINUS DRAMA !

It is free from complaints and compliance to life’s situations that drag me in darkness and depression.

It is free from the pressure to perform and free from the pain of going against my grain so I don’t feel burned out or bored out anymore.

It is stripped off the belief that life is a struggle and a survival of the strongest !

It is consciously choosing how to react to life and interact with the people around me !

When something goes wrong, are you going in the same direction ? Are you participating in negativity, adding fuel to the fire ?

Are you rather passive or apathetic towards what happens around you ? You don’t care, that’s their problem, whatever,…!

Or do you decide to be the observer and be present, completely balanced and centered, being able to choose the way that is non judgmental and feels good to all ?

WHO ARE YOU MINUS THE DRAMA ?

Phuro! Be inspired!

Hush my darling

Hush my darling, don’t fear my darling the lion sleeps tonight…

A few days ago this song popped into my head. I felt compelled to know why, I needed to explore it further. It reminded me of my childhood, it reminded me of Nietzsche and his three stages of human transformation, starting with the camel, the lion and ending with the child.

A child-like spirit is vital to happiness, health, and well-being. “The child is innocence and forgetting, a new beginning, a sport, a self-propelling wheel, a Sacred Yes”, Nietzsche said. The lion becomes a child when life is no longer a reactive struggle to defeat other forces. Life becomes a celebration.

We are at the final crossroads where we finally understand what needs to be done to fully free ourselves from our imaginary cages. The key lies in our consciousness, in our willingness to shed the old completely and create at a different level.

We are all renewing our vows, vows we made a long time ago. We are remembering where we came from and what we came here to do.

Our time is now to dive deeply into the water, not just tip toe in it. It is time we drink the water and not just taste it on our lips !

We are invited to join NOW, the universe awaits our decision and asks : Are you in or out ? What’s it going to be ?

Your task as a bridger and mediator wasn’t an easy one. You fell in the booby traps of the matrix, you sunk deep in the rabbithole. Your bridge couldn’t hold the weight anymore and started cracking and it eventually collapsed, the walls of Babylon came down…

Your structure collapsed because it wasn’t based on a proper foundation, it didn’t correspond to the laws of the universe, the law of one. So you fell, all the way down.

Only to discover something else at the bottom : Your essence, your I AM, your true foundation !

You have to rebuild your bridge from zero but this time you have help from some new and powerful friends : courageousness and faith, self acceptance and peace !

Relax and return to your foundation, your “I AM” and start generating love for yourself first ! Once you feel that energy abundantly and overflowing, let it flow to your family and friends, then broaden it to your city and your country aswell, let it envelop the whole world and finally let it encompass the whole universe…this is the ultimate love affair !

Be quiet and relax even more deeply, you will see that everything is returned to you again…because you are that universe !

You can’t erase yourself out of this experience. Even death can’t to that !

Phuro! Be inspired!

Love is now(-)here !

“Open your heart and surrender to the peace of a quiet mind and to the eternal no-thing-ness at the core of your existence. Here then is where your Eternal Nature is to be experienced and where the unconditional Love of our Lord awaits. It is simply what you are when there is nothing in your way.”

S. F. Pfister

When a relationship ends our whole world just seems to stop and collapse. A painful grieving process often begins. We feel uncomplete and we find ourselves wandering…wondering about old times. How we wish to experience those moments again…How we crave those people…Our love and happiness are living in the past.

When we experience a rough time or are facing some tough stuff in our relationship(s), we find ourselves dreaming of better times, we are looking forward to a more healthy or wealthy future…our time has yet to come… Our love and happiness are living in the future.

The present can feel so unpleasant that we constantly try to escape it, so in mind we rewind or fast forward continuously to better times. We return to reality only to find out our happiness isn’t here right now ! We get caught in a vicious cycle…

Nowhere – Now here

There is no past. the past is a mental picture, constantly edited by us. There is no future. There are only thoughts in the present about things that have not happened yet. We project our thoughts to future events. Again it is a mental picture !

We can only be conscious in the moment, we can only experience happiness and love now here !

You tell me that you have been looking for love everywhere ! You looked in every possible corner and it’s nowhere to be found ! It’s not there for you, it’s just not meant to be…

What you see are just reflections of your inner self, what you are lacking outside, you forgot to nourish within in the first place !

Here’s the problem : what you desire doesn’t correspond to your reality. You see two things : your desire and the lack of it in your life. You don’t have what you want and you start focusing on the lack.

Everywhere you go, you see people having what you want, you see loving couples kissing each other, your heart crumbles…Everyone you meet, reminds you of what you are currently missing and lacking in life !

What you want to attract in life you often repulse by connecting a negative emotion to it, by feeling bad about it. You reject your happiness because you are not feeling worthy…

You don’t feel worthy, you doubt and worry…You are afraid of making another mistake, you are jealous and envious of a friend…Feelings of blame, guilt, shame are keeping your vibration low. You radiate lack. Like attracts like so more lack is all that follows…

Set your heart free and tune up !

It’s not that what you desire is bad or impossible to accomplish. You just need to close the gap between your desire and actually having the experience of it. You close the gap by feeling your way into it. By bringing that feeling of acccomplishment, the feeling of “it is done” to the present moment. Live it ! Be it !

Are you corresponding and responding with love, radiating love or are you repulsing it and rejecting it ? Are you still judging and blaming others for your fails and fiascos in your relationships ? You have to let go of what ties you to the past. You need to soften up for your own sake !

When you are searching for a suiting song on the radio, you make sure when you stumble on the right one that you stay on the exact frequency of that particular radiostation broadcasting it !

You don’t stop before it or after it where you can barely hear it or where there’s disturbance…You adjust untill you hear it very brightly and clearly !

Love is always at our disposition, right here, right now. Not in a distant place and time. Love lies at our core. We only need to adjust our tuner and find the right frequency to unlock the magic !

Once we find the wisdom of the heart, it is our most accurate gps and steering wheel !

Phuro! Be inspired!

Groove is in the heart

In 1978 I got my first record player, I was 6 years old ! A cousin gave me a couple of albums he didn’t use anymore, my first collection was born ! A whole new world opened to me and I felt excited !

I loved putting my ears next to the speakers and feel the beat of the records vibrating through my whole body, bass to the max of course !

Yes kids, back then we could literally destroy an album and play it crazy, some to the extend that there were deep grooves in them and the needle could barely get over these ditches !

Can you barely get over an obstacle, are you unable to move forward in life, unable to solve your problems ? Do you have the feeling that nothing really ever works out for you ?

You have caused a nasty groove in your record ! Yes, you !

Are you stuck in sentences as : I can’t do it…It is useless…I am a failure… Are these the thoughts that you are repeating all over again to yourself ?

These are not exactly creating the kind of melody you were longing for isn’t ? Your habitual negative thoughts and beliefs can destroy the song you want to sing and make you lose the joy of dancing to life. You will just sink further into the hole that you have been creating for yourself.

Your subconsious mind is very powerful, but it is a powerstation without direction. It needs the right commands from your conscious mind to be able to create what you want in life !

You really have to impress it with the right mental images, you have to impregnate it with good feelings so it can give you the offspring you truly desire !

Let the desires that are in harmony with your heart cause a melodious groove in your life’s album. Let them overtake the negativity present in your life.

Each time you tend to your negative patterns, stop yourself in the process. Overrule them by stating : I am working with divine mind, I choose love, I choose happiness, I choose joy !

Let the groove come out of your heart and claim back your happiness right now !

Put the needle on the record and nail it !

Phuro! Be inspired!

Find your flow !

“I am the center of my own web of circumstances and as I change so must my outer world.”

Neville

Maybe you stumbled on this website because you were looking for inspiration or motivation, maybe you were looking for help or assistance because you feel blocked in life. Maybe you just feel alone or not understood by your surroundings. Maybe you are awakening and your realize that it isn’t an easy process and you wonder if other people are experiencing the same.

“There’s a blue moon
Or a bright sun
Shining in every sky
Better think twice
Before this life baby
Just passes you by”

Maybe as a child you were told several times you couldn’t do something, or you were beaten and you grew up feeling unappreciated, unworthy or worse : unloved ! It can be difficult in bringing all these experiencing up to the surface and to find your king-pin, your oppressor, your core resisting thoughts and beliefs !

As you move through the pain, you will gain more confidence in your capabilities and in your moves. When you feel drained by the struggle in life, sometimes all it takes is a spark of faith ! Sooner or later there will be a turning point where you finally start letting go, detaching yourself from all these low inner states.

“Everyone knows there’s no
Sure way of telling
Which way to go
Open your heart
Come on let’s start
Making a new love grow”*

What’s it worth ?

You are. You are worth it ! You are worth to not only live or exist but you are worth to live a happy life ! If you are not convinced by this statement then you still resist your own happiness !

Keep stripping off all these limited identities and conditions and accept the being that you are. Accept how powerful you are and start flowing with life again !

I hope you are a visitor ready for self empowerment, ready to take another outlook on life, I hope this is a place where you can feel at ease and start being at peace with yourself !

Phuro! Be inspired!

*Song : Tell me what it takes ~Soulsister

Is uw bedrijf klaar voor een happiness manager ?

In deze huidige tijd ligt uw focus misschien niet persoonlijk op het welzijn van uw medewerkers. U heeft immers andere katten te geselen : bedrijfsvisie, korte en lange termijnplanning, marketing, verkoopresultaten…U blijft vaak lang op kantoor, tot uw bedrijf in slaapmodus valt. U hoopt op z’n allerminst dat morgenochtend die “bedrijvigheid” terugkeert !

Toch is er wel degelijk een probleem met het ziekteverzuim onder de actieve bevolkingsgroep. Statistieken tonen nog steeds een groei aan van langdurig zieken door stress, vermoeidheid, burn-out en depressie. Ook door verandering in privésituaties zoals echtscheiding, ziekte, dood of zelfs geboorte ondervinden werknemers moeilijkheden om de draad weer op te pikken en zich teug aan te passen aan het bedrijfsleven. En dan de puur werk gerelateerde afwezigheden die volgen na een gebrek aan motivatie, slechte prestatie, uitbrander,…soms met als gevolg het ontslag van een goede werknemer die wat minder zelfzeker is en die enkel een duwtje in de rug nodig had ?

Naast u, de leiding, en uw product of service wordt de geest van uw bedrijf ook meebepaald door de individuele spelers erin en hoe zij gemotiveerd zijn, geïnspireerd zijn om het beste van zichzelf te geven. U heeft graag de juiste mensen op de juiste plek, mensen waarvan u weet dat ze verantwoordelijkheid nemen, waarvan u weet dat ze de juiste capaciteiten hebben en die resultaten weten neer te zetten. U waardeert mensen die tegen een stootje kunnen, die niet meteen emotioneel uit hun lood te slaan zijn.

Waarom het welzijn van uw medewerkers niet overlaten aan iemand die meteen de signalen opmerkt wanneer ze uit balans zijn ? Misschien kunt u dat “wat u op het puntje van uw stoel doet zitten” of dat “waarvan u huivert” overlaten aan een happiness manager ? Een happiness manager is iemand die steeds een luisterend oor biedt, er is voor een losse babbel, peptalk, motivatiegesprek maar die steeds tussen de lijntjes leest en weet wanneer ze “BS” hoort.

Waarom niet de hulp inschakelen van iemand die van inspiratie naar transformatie coacht, mensen leert focussen op een growth mindset, reverse engineering toepast en die weet dat “gelukkige medewerkers” een katapult zijn voor exponentiële groei voor uw bedrijf !

Bel of mail ons nu voor een kennismakend gesprek !

info@phuro.be – +32478/07.33.93

Phuro! Be inspired!

Wiena Robert

De Happiness manager