Sky & sand

A friend of ours used to have a snack bar in our neighbourhood. One evening my son ran to the counter and ordered french fries and a burger, he mentioned to our friend that he didn’t like the sesame seeds on the bun !

Our friend immediately took a burger bun and started scraping off the seeds…

I started laughing. ”What are you doing silly, you don’t have to do that you know, stop that ! You are treating my son like a king.” I said.

He turned to me : “If the boy wants a burger without those tiny bastards, he will have one !”

Before I could even reply he continued : “Shall I remind you of one of your house rules lady : “The Queen doesn’t cook on Friday !”  “Well today is my turn to treat him like a King !” He winked at my son who already had a big smile on his face !

There was no point in arguing with him so I rested my case ! Our conversations were always quite loud and joyful, we liked to tease each other !

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But months later our plans to have french fries for dinner were disturbed, the doors from our friend’s bar were closed and stayed closed. Closed as in forever closed…

He had killed himself the night before. We were all in shock. How was that possible ?

He was fully prepared and had it all planned. He had written his last wishes on paper for his family. One of them was to play “Sky and sand” at his funeral.

That’s the reason why some weeks later, I found myself in tears at a wedding party when the DJ played this song. Although it used to be one of my favourites, I was now instantly reminded of darkness and death !

There I was asking myself : “Why ? Why you ? What were you thinking ? Why was your soul in such pain ? Why didn’t you shout out and ask for help ?”

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He was already the third one who decided to step out of life and hang himself. The weight of those three fell on me, through that song, that night on the dancefloor…

Music touches our soul directly and is able to remind us of the good times and the bad times. It can bring back joyful and painful memories and trigger our deepest sadness or happiness !

It took me a while to get over the sadness and grief that I had linked to the song and to really appreciate it again without shedding tears.

I now see its beauty again and when I hear it I think about all those beautiful souls and the good times we had !

As long as we are flying, all this world ain’t got no end !

 

Phuro! Be inspired!

The fear of death

“The fear of death is born with man, though this is the only thing he knows is certain to happen to him. Attachment to material things make man cling to life.”

On the verge of death people often feel regret and remorse.

Regret for unspoken things, regret for the fears that they couldn’t face. Remorse for the harm that they have caused, remorse for all the quarrels and the fights !

On the verge of death people often feel guilt and shame, hate and resentment, there are still wounds and pains that they have left untouched. There are still things that weigh them down.

On the verge of death people fear to be punished by a judgemental God !

If they could forgive themselves and others for all the harm being done and clear their unfinished businesses, they wouldn’t have to carry that much with them !

For years they have been struggling and postponing their happiness. They often don’t realise they were chasing an illusion but now it’s too late to make a change !

Don’t wait till the verge of death to liberate you from your fears and to free yourself from the weights of anger and hate.

Don’t wait till the verge of death to spend time with loved ones and to do the things that really matter…

Don’t wait until it’s too late to be loving and forgiving !

Phuro! Be inspired!

When you chant the Name of the Divine, when you are one with the Divine, you accept death. While you are attached to life and afraid of death, you die with that fear and that weight clinging to you.

If you have attained liberation you are free from death, you accept the inevitable.
You die without fear and by remembering the Name of God, your soul leaves the body free of that fear and attachment. 

If you are reborn, your soul is still free from that fear. If you die in “unity”, you are free from rebirth, unless you will it.”

Babaji