A lot of people don’t know how to communicate properly anymore and fail to make meaningful connections with others.
Many lost their ability to observe and to be objective. They don’t know that their perception is filtered internally and that they react to their environment according to their own beliefs.
They lost their ability to listen without judgement, they are full of preconceived ideas on how others should behave, act or be. They just pick up the bits and pieces that seem useful to them and that match their inner reality.
They don’t give people time nor space to tell their story and say it as it is. They don’t give people room to be who they truly are.
It is a huge handicap ! From this inability confusion and misunderstanding arises. We let our emotions get in the way and often react without having truthful information. We often make decisions according to our assumptions or even according to a hearsay.
With empathy comes the power to hear what was left unsaid. With empathy comes the ability to feel what’s really a burden to people’s hearts.
Empathy is a superpower that we urgently need back !
Phuro! Be inspired!
Be involved !
Mental coaching isn’t about shouting uplifting words all the times or telling a player he needs more confidence, that’s just not enough. Tell him something he doesn’t know yet !
HOW he can get more confidence…WHAT does he need to do ? He wants a solution, not just having the problem shoved under his nose again…
Sometimes we believe our children aren’t smart enough, We often talk behind their back and make decisions according to what we believe is best, but they themselves are part of the solution.
They have to learn how to focus and how to communicate honestly !
Team players should be encouraged to regularly talk to eachother so they can better understand their team and be involved in it.
The reason why I caricatured some players in my previous blog Soccer is a TEAM sport (the bully, the cryer, the comedian, the unmotivated one) is because all of these traits are present within yourselves on some level but you have to acknowledge this in order to change it.
Be honest with yourselves, talk about your qualities and your flaws and regard critcism from coaches and team members as feedback.
Listen and work on the solution together !
Phuro! Be inspired!