Best buddies…

Do you have a buddy, a BFF, someone you tell all your secrets to, who is always there for you, usually at the right time and the right place ?

Have you ever been wondering why helping others seems to be a piece of cake for them ? Why everything they say and do is so “spot on” and natural ? It’s like they are God sent !

No doubt about it : Having a good buddy is like having a personal coach or a mentor ! Consider yourself lucky when you have one at your disposal !

Buddies…Who are they, what drives them ? Let’s have a look at some of their characteristics and maybe – most importantly – how you can turn into one of them too…

Buddies always listen !

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Because of their empathic nature they are careful listeners and are able to read between the lines. “I’m fine !” “Really ? What a load of bollocks darling !”

No need to beat around the bush, no bullshitting them ! They will get to the core almost immediately !

Even when you lose the plot or are going collywobbles, they don’t judge, they don’t blame. They know who you truly are and that this is just a silly phase you’re going through…

You are only experiencing a moment of temporary insanity !

Buddies believe !

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They are here to help you keep your dreams alive ! They know when you are sabotaging your progress and they easily spot the people around you killing your vibe !

Their mission is to help you deal with the hooligans from your past and to release them for good.

They help you beat the bullies in the present and give you tools to stop the belittling, the jealousy and the hatred.

They believe in you when no one else does, with them you are never completely alone or lost ! They will never give up on you !

Buddies inspire !

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They show you how to keep moving forward, heading up high !

They know how to keep you motivated ! They stimulate you and inspire you in different ways…

They poke you and sometimes even provoke you ! “And…cut ! Action !”

“Can’t, must, won’t, impossible,…” are words that have been erased out of their dictionnary. “Who said it can’t be done ? Bob’s your uncle !”

Buddies go all the way !

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Don’t ask how they do it…They always have a plan and it’s usually as hot as their pants ! Expect the unexpected or things to happen accidentally on purpose !

They know how to put things in higher gear and will always go the full monty with you !

Buddies care !

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Buddies care and take care of things ! They sense when words are useless and when you are in need of a good hug, a reassuring hand on the shoulder or a distraction from your worries.

They will support you and surprise you with unusual gifts to show their appreciation. They will take you for a walk, let you sing karaoke or maybe will go bungee jumping with you !

Everything they do is done wholeheartedly, with the intention to lift you up higher !

Buddies cheer you up !

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Buddies are genuine and honest, they are hardly able to tell a lie. They carry their heart on their tongue and can sometimes be offensive towards others…

Strangely enough they always get away with it, as they are charming as hell and…well,  they are as cool as a cucumber !

They are such fun to be around, they always look at the bright side of life ! They are always positive and excited ! They are so full of beans !

And last but not least they are always in for a fabulous joke that results in a good belly laugh !

Their motto : “Don’t worry ! Be happy !”

Phuro! Be inspired!

 

 

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Passionate beings

I love the music of Armin Van Buuren, a world famous DJ who happens to live in my neighbouring country The Netherlands. I like his trance just as much as the more commercial stuff and his remixes of old school classics.

Now you have to believe me when I say I am an excellent people spotter…No hiding for me ! Whether with or without make up or with or without masquerades : I will always expose you !

It doesn’t matter if we have met already several times or just once…I will recognize you…Even if we were to meet each other ten years from now, I would still remember who you are.

Sometimes showing me a photograph is enough…I’m hypersensitive and an image thinker…no further explanations necessary 🙂

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Armin recently posted a vlog where he went back to his roots. He was visiting the small village in the Netherlands he grew up in. I was thinking “if he would walk by me and greet me today, I probably wouldn’t be able to recognize him ! He’s just a normal, average looking human being…like you and me…

But once you put that man in front of thousands of people he suddenly metamorphoses in another entity, someone who enjoys doing what he is doing, someone who shares his passion with the world.

I am often struck by his genuine smile on stage and the way he motivates people to join the fun, sometimes even sharing tears with the crowd aswell…

In his authentic expression, he spreads a contagious and inspiring energy that radiates through all the people present.

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Another example : Oscar Colombie (Oscar and the Wolf). What an appearance on stage ! He admits he is a rather shy boy but whenever he’s on stage “something” takes over, a higher version of himself. Once he’s performing he is able to sweep his insecurities away and to hypnotize an whole audience !

Whoever you pass by on the street today, it could be a young person or an older one, looking average, down to earth…An unshaved man wearing a slobby sweater, a girl without make up showing her raw beauty…

Know that passion and genuineness can be burried deep within, behind their mask.

Just as with you. You might think you are just an average man or woman with an average life, while you just failed to see the genius in you or forgot how to access it…

What are you passionate about ? Music, art, science, writing, sports, a certain cause,…Find your passion and follow it !!!

This fire is within you for a reason : to inspire you to become a bigger version of yourself and to inspire others to do the same !

Phuro! Be inspired!

Soccer is a TEAM sport II

Be involved !

Mental coaching isn’t about shouting uplifting words all the times or telling a player he needs more confidence, that’s just not enough. Tell him something he doesn’t know yet !

HOW he can get more confidence…WHAT does he need to do ? He wants a solution, not just having the problem shoved under his nose again…

Sometimes we believe our children aren’t smart enough, We often talk behind their back and make decisions according to what we believe is best, but they themselves are part of the solution.

They have to learn how to focus and how to communicate honestly !

Team players should be encouraged to regularly talk to eachother so they can better understand their team and be involved in it.

The reason why I caricatured some players in my previous blog Soccer is a TEAM sport (the bully, the cryer, the comedian, the unmotivated one) is because all of these traits are present within yourselves on some level but you have to acknowledge this in order to change it.

Be honest with yourselves, talk about your qualities and your flaws and regard critcism from coaches and team members as feedback.

Listen and work on the solution together !

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Phuro! Be inspired!